Today a traumatic childhood memory was triggered for me after what Neha reported.
When I was 10 years into my journey on this earth wewere living in a house overlooking a mansion across the road. A family had built that beautiful house and moved in. The husband was working in a top company of the time, had two grown up daughters and the wife was known to my mother.
One night we heard a disconcerting brawl and my mother and I came to the balcony and saw the lady waking away quickly into the darkness of the street.
Since it was pretty late at night none of the neighbours cared to intervene, but my mother wanted to help. She asked me to accompany her and when we both caught up with the lady, she was weeping. We were shocked to see that when she lifted her saree’s pallu, her clothes were torn!
Weeping like a child she was narrating to my mother how her husband was drunk and had beaten her up so badly.
That’s the day I witnessed the evil of alcohol first hand and hence decided to stayed away from it. Alcohol is not entertainment.
So coming back to what happened today morning, our help is from Nepal and was married at the age of 19 and is a mother of a 2 year old. Studied upto 8th grade and was married off as a child.
Darshana came to work with IV mark on her hands and when Neha asked her on what happened she broke down. Neha didn’t understand Hindi and hence called me.
She told us that her husband was fully drunk yesterday as it was his salary day and vented out all his frustration upon her. Feeling helpless she consumed poison but was rushed to the hospital and the following rigmarole.
To ensure that she has her financial independence we got her a smart phone and arranging for a bank account so that she can save some of her earnings and handle such situations better.
Putting ourselves in her shoes we felt helpless on how to deal with a situation like this, please advise on how can we help her
What should she do ideally do so that she has a healthy family?
What is the SOP (standard operating procedure) she can follow when her husband turns home drunk? We asked her to come home with her baby and stay with us if he does this again. Are we right in saying this?
I believe the as much as we have karma of indulgence, we also incur karma for omission. We need to help mothers who are in such situations and any advice from you is highly appreciable.
Remember this is brainstorming as the more Ridiculous your suggestion the more it has the potential to solve this problem for so many.